How to Write a Polyamorous Dating Profile

What a good profile does

A good polyamorous profile says plainly that you are polyamorous, what your relationships look like now, and what you are hoping to find. That saves time for you and for the people reading it.

Say what your setup is

Name your structure in a line or two, such as solo poly, partnered with an open relationship, or a couple looking for a third. You do not need to explain polyamory from scratch, but people cannot guess how it works for you.

Describe what you are looking for

Be specific about the kind of connection you want, such as friendship, romance, a long-term partner, or something casual. Say whether you have limited time, whether you are looking for someone to fit into an existing relationship, and what you are not looking for.

State your boundaries

Anything that matters to you can go in the profile: how you approach sexual health, whether you are open to meeting a partner's other partners, or topics you do not want to be messaged about. Stating them early is kinder than discovering a mismatch later.

Examples to adapt

These are examples to borrow from and change, not real members:

• "Solo poly, happily independent. I have a full life and room for one or two more meaningful connections. I value honesty and slow, steady trust."
• "Partnered and open. My partner and I each date separately, and we both know about each other's relationships. Looking for a friend first and see where it goes."
• "New to polyamory and still learning. Reading, listening and looking for kind people who don't mind a beginner's questions."

If it is a couple's profile

Say who the profile is for, and make sure both of you have agreed on what goes in it. Be clear about whether you are looking to date together, separately, or both, so no one is surprised.

Protect your partners' privacy

Leave out your partners' names, photos and details unless they have said yes. Think about what you share regarding where you live or work. You decide what to show and when.

Photos

Use clear, recent photos of yourself that show your face. Skip anything you would not want a partner to see.

Ready to write yours?

When you are ready, you can create a profile on Polyamory Meet and use these ideas as a starting point.